Boundaries and Relationships
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“There’s nothing in society that teaches us to have boundaries: not school, not church, not parents. We have to stumble upon the idea of setting healthy boundaries. I’ve learned about how to do so, and now I’m just spreading the word.”
~Christian Torres-George, LCSW
Feeling suffocated by your reputation of always saying 'yes'.
At first, you were happy to help out with a little favor, and the positive feedback felt great. But now, it's become a real headache.
It's not fun anymore. But you’ve been on a roll of saying ‘yes’ and it’s hard to stop at this point. Even though you know you need to. Because your plate is WAY too full.
You’re being pulled in 100 different directions. You're walking a very fine line, near your breaking point. Exhausted.
If only it weren’t so difficult to tell others what you really think, feel, want, need...you name it—all of it. Because that feels like a battle you’d rather not fight. You're too run down for that.
You continue to say ‘yes’ to things you don’t have the bandwidth for, leaving yourself with whatever’s left over. And it’s pretty much just crumbs.
Where do you go from here? You can’t keep saying ‘yes’ to everything in your work and personal life—unless you plan on never sleeping again.
Last week, you were craving Chinese food from your favorite takeout spot. But when someone suggested pizza instead...well, you can guess what happened next.
Your heart's in the right place, no doubt. But you know there has to be a better way.
Gaining respect for confidently saying 'no'.
Starting to be known in the office, with your family, and in those social circles as the “yes and no” person.
And it feels so damn good! Confidence levels are at an all-time high.
No more feeling anxious after someone makes a request. You've really learned to be honest with yourself, checking if you've got the physical and mental oomph to tackle it, and then you just tell it like it is.
No more justifying your answer, overexplaining, or feeling pressured to please the person asking for a favor.
Speaking up more about your feelings, needs, and wants comes with some nice perks.
Like finally getting those tacos you've been craving. Instead of another night of Hamburger Helper (thank goodness).
You've stopped spreading yourself too thin, so now you've got some energy stashed away just for you.
Freeing up time means you can finally indulge in cozying up with that book you've been meaning to get to.
You can skip those pointless meetings, and binge-watch that Netflix show everyone's raving about. Or maybe you'll enjoy a leisurely stroll with your furry friend (or snuggling with your cat, if that's more your style).
Basically, you're making more time for things that make you feel good.
I’m a bit of a boundary connoisseur.
Very experienced in this department having learned this myself. Which helped me learn the nuances that come with relationships and how to set and stick to boundaries.
So, we can skip over some of the trial and error parts, and jump straight to figuring out what works best for you.
I'm not sure how you feel about assertive communication, but hear me out. I intend to approach it in a way that feels simple and practical, something you can actually see yourself trying out.
Together we’ll have you knowing when to say ‘yes’, and when to say ‘no’ to have the balance that you’ve been needing.
A highlight moment in this work is seeing the shift when you recognize that setting boundaries doesn't make you an a**hole.
